Hey Creatures, (Okay this is a new thing. I want to start having a fixed intro but I’m not sure so I want to try a few posts and see if it’ll stick)
In today’s post, I will be giving my thoughts on The Tinder Swindler on Netflix and lessons I learned from this documentary.
Starting this off , I didn’t know what to expect. I actually thought it was a movie like a fun, relaxing, entertaining movie. Almost like the ‘YOU’ series on Netflix. I’ll tell you now, It was not. and I blame Simon for that.
First of all, let’s talk about Simon. He kept on telling these women that his ‘enemies’ were after him. How Ironic because now his enemies are after him-the women he scammed. Like honestly ,how can someone be this evil? How can someone live comfortably off of people’s money, that they stole?!
These women were ultimately victims in this situation. However, I cannot imagine my self ever being in this situation because of my relationship with money. This documentary was literally an eye opener for me. It taught me some things about life and confirmed some of my ideologies as well.
So let’s get into it
1. Do not lend out money you cannot do without
I am honestly surprised that people don’t follow this ‘rule’ in the first place. If I have £1000 and someone asked me for £900. I cannot lend you that money because if you can’t pay it back, I will be stranded. So it really surprised me that Perlina was willing to lend Simon 30,000 dollars that she was supposed to use to buy an apartment. Even though she could afford to give him the money at the time, clearly she couldn’t do without it if she has a GoFundMe open with the other girls he scammed.
Bottom line: If you can’t do without it ,don’t do without it.
2. Research everyone to the best of your abilities.
I have had this done to me before but I just thought it was odd. After watching this documentary I realize how important this is. Before meeting someone you meet online, research them. This obviously didn’t work in this case because he had changed his name and edited pictures to back up his lies and fake Identity. But, I still think this is important because it might save you from your very own swindler and it’s just a great idea to me.
3. Never leave a conversation with the other person knowing more about you than you do them
This is something I am currently working on because I talk ALOT. Granted that most of the information I tell people about myself are general information. However, I realise how easy it is for someone to learn about me and possibly manipulate me along the line. Also, I think talking less in a conversation will improve my listening skills and make me ask more meaningful questions.
4. Always get your friends involved at some point in your romantic life
Obviously you do not need to take advise from anyone on what is best for your relationship but you should at least have someone to confide in , in situations like this. It could be your mum, pastor or even your therapist, if not your friends. My point here is , it is good to hear out opinions from people around you that genuinely want the best for you. Even hearing opinions from people that don’t like you can be helpful too. Just listen because everyone cannot be talking shit.
5. Do not take out a Loan for anyone
Please do not take out a loan or in the case of Cecilie-9 different loans- for anyone. You know what? Love is blind so let’s say you take a loan out for someone. Make them pay it back before taking out another. Simon was able to forge documents making it seem like he had sent the money so this was part of the ‘scammery’ that Simon did. So I get it. Now here’s why I cannot imagine myself in this situation. The first point I mentioned, I cannot give you what I do not have. Second point, if I don’t have it someone else will and that’s not me.
Okay that’s it for today.
if you haven’t watched The Tinder Swindler, I highly recommend it. If you have, feel free to share your thoughts!