I stopped interacting with bloggers for two months

Over time, I have come to realize the importance of having mutuals and blog friends as a blogger. I noticed the impact on my blog especially in January when I decided to start engaging more with blogs I truly liked or am at least interested in.This skyrocketed my blog growth and interactions. I am still shocked by the impact. A clear example would be my views in January where I posted 6 times. Compared to my views in the whole of 2021 where I posted 11 times. I have over 700 views in the former and a little over 500 views in the latter. See?!

Views since March 2021 to January 2022

So I decided to not interact with any blog for a month to see the impact on my blog. Prior to this decision, I wasn’t interacting with many blogs, I think at most between 3-5 blogs. So in two months It was about 7 times or less, this included liking posts and replying to comments on my blog.

The impact of this on my blog is evident as now I am barely getting half of my January views. It’s quite interesting to see the decline over time.

Views since January
Visitors since January
Likes Since January

It is also key to note that there are other factors in play that could be causing this decline.

  1. I was posting on Wednesdays in January and Febuary but since then I have posted on Tuesdays, Thursdays, Fridays on each month after that.
  2. I was scheduling my blogs 4 weeks before the actual post date so I don’t know if it gave off ‘not fresh’ vibes.
  3. I made alot of changes to my blog between the time period and some people did not like it.

Overall it was a pretty relaxing experience. I was able to blog consistently for months without actively being a blogger. I want to appreciate the people that interacted with my blog while I was gone-ish , It’s really amazing of you especially because you didn’t have to, but you did.

The moral of the experience here is that if views, visits and every other form of interaction is important to you, then I highly suggest interacting with other blogs and bloggers consistently. I will be giving an update when I post on Wednesdays again for a month, just to see if the days I posted on impacted anything.

Till then, see you in my next post.

Post Question: On average, how many times do you interact with other blogs/bloggers weekly?

Why did I get married?| Movie review

Hey Creatures!

In today’s post , I will be sharing my thoughts on the movie-Why did I get married?.

I realize I probably never mentioned this on my blog before, so I’d like to out rightly state that my reviews will always contain spoilers. It might not be major but they will have some key spoiling info. So consider that before you read anything on here. okay? okay.

Summary

‘Four married couples take a week’s vacation each year where the only agenda is asking themselves ‘why did I get married?’ ‘Eight married friends take their annual reunion vacation in the Colorado mountains. Revelations of infidelity involving one pair shatter the amicable mood, forcing the remaining friends to take a hard look at the strength of their own marriages. The couples grapple with issues of commitment, love, betrayal and forgiveness as they try to move on with their lives.’-(This is the summary from google )

My thoughts

Diane and Terry

We hear of cases where one partner feels neglected by the other because of how time consuming their career is. This is how Terry feels about Diane and her work. Diane is a proud career women, who doesn’t want anymore kids. Terry is also a career man but more family oriented and he wants a son, or another child at least. So this was their main issue. We later find out Diane tied her tube without telling him and terry ended up moving out. It was a mess. Terry didn’t like how Diane treated him, and well so did I, which is why I was lowkey hoping he wouldn’t take her back. But he did.

Angela and Marcus

This was the most chaotic couple out of the bunch. I have many feelings towards Angela, but one thing I like the most was that she was outspoken. She will talk you out your shit and back into it. She was a successful salon owner and her husband happened to work for her. I believe their main issue was infidelity and the fact that Marcus has been jobless for 8 years. Angela was really unbearable and It was evident that Marcus really loved her because he stayed. Although I would say that , when Marcus listened to her , she would always calm down and apologize if she was wrong. So I guess it makes sense that Marcus stayed because he knows Angela wasn’t crazy for always nagging.

Sheila and Mike

Mike is a piece of absolute disgusting unforgivable sick shit. While Sheila , is so so breathtaking. She’s so soft-spoken, caring, considerate , she is soo damn fine. I don’t know what she ever saw in Mike. You know how you have people that you like but don’t like at the same time?. Mike did not like Sheila…at all. He would always comment on her weight, her diet and everything wrong he found in her. He made her drive for hours in the cold because the flight attendant said she needed to buy another sit due to her weight. He carried his side chick on the trip for his pleasure of course. I was appalled by his behavior.

Patricia and Gavin

Patricia, who was also a career woman, would always call herself a doctor. I am not really sure if she meant because of a PhD degree or if she meant as an actual medical doctor. I was too busy focusing on other people problems but she actually carried out a lot of research and wrote multiple books including ‘why did I get married?’. Her husband was very supportive of her and her career. He seemed to love her a lot. Their issue was that Patricia got in an accident which killed their only child and since then Patricia moved on as if nothing happened. This was particularly difficult for Gavin because he wanted another child and Patricia was not ready .They seemed like the perfect couple from the outside which is contrary to what is going on on the inside. One thing I would say is that, as a someone that teaches, researches and writes book on self-help and development, she was the problem in her marriage.

My favorite scene

One thing about me, I will enjoy a well deserved revenge. Like a cheating husband getting STD, thinking he got it from the woman he was cheating with, only for him to find out that his wife was cheating first and she was the one that gave it to him. HA! I found a video on YouTube showing the entire dinner scene. I think if you want to get an idea of how chaotic and entertaining this movie is, then just watch this video. This was my favourite part of the movie.

Overall, this was a great watch. It was relaxing , funny and entertaining. I’ll be rating in 5/5. because I will watch it again.

Rating: 4.5 out of 5.

Okay that’s it for this post, see you in my next.

Phone Swap Movie Review| Nigerian Romantic Comedy.

Today I will be reviewing the amazing Nigerian movie called Phone Swap. Am I spoiling my spoiler review by telling you on the first line that it was an amazing watch? Yes , I am.

So let’s get into it

I watched this movie the other day and my friend is a living witness. I was actually laughing and grinning like a Cheshire cat. It was a really relaxing and entertaining watch.

Summary

Mary is clearly overwhelmed by work , her boss was taking credit for her designs , her neighbours remained nosy by constantly asking her when she was going to marry. Her father was calling her for conflict resolution in regards to her troublesome younger sister. Her younger sister, physically assaults her husband, in this particular case she had grabbed her husbands pen!s and squeezed it…aggressively. Hence , as the first born , Mary had to come and help beg the husband and his family member to forgive her. Around this time, Mary found that her boyfriend was married. Chaos.

Akin was an arrogant business man, he was trying to go behind his boss back to encourage a merger between departments that may cause a lot of his colleagues to loose their jobs. He was trying to also make his way up the ladder as well. He had a leach for a girlfriend and I think to an extent, he was actually done with their relationship. He had a loquacious assistant, who informed his mum of his daily movement. His mum, who has also been pressuring him to bring his girl friend home.

In addition to these two main Characters were others such as Mary’s family, Mary’s co-worker, Akin’s Mother ,his assistant as well as his co-workers. All these added to the comedic flair of the movie. Although I need to say that , the way Akin and Mary fell in love felt a bit rushed.

Favourite Scene

My favourite scene in this movie was Akin’s first time eating in Mary’s house. A lot of traditional Nigerian meals are eaten with our hands. However, Akin came from a ‘Westernised’ household where he is used to eating with Cutleries. Imagine eating Eba with fork and knife in a traditionally/culturally driven Nigerian household looool. Anyways, I found it funny because everyone was digging into the food with their hands and Akin was there asking for cutlery.

Rating: 4.5/5

I will definitely watch again.

5 lessons I learned from The Tinder Swindler

Hey Creatures, (Okay this is a new thing. I want to start having a fixed intro but I’m not sure so I want to try a few posts and see if it’ll stick)

In today’s post, I will be giving my thoughts on The Tinder Swindler on Netflix and lessons I learned from this documentary.

Starting this off , I didn’t know what to expect. I actually thought it was a movie like a fun, relaxing, entertaining movie. Almost like the ‘YOU’ series on Netflix. I’ll tell you now, It was not. and I blame Simon for that.

Summary

A group of women who were the victims of a dating app based swindler join together in an attempt to hunt him down and recover the millions of dollars that were stolen from them.

My Opinion

First of all, let’s talk about Simon. He kept on telling these women that his ‘enemies’ were after him. How Ironic because now his enemies are after him-the women he scammed. Like honestly ,how can someone be this evil? How can someone live comfortably off of people’s money, that they stole?!

These women were ultimately victims in this situation. However, I cannot imagine my self ever being in this situation because of my relationship with money. This documentary was literally an eye opener for me. It taught me some things about life and confirmed some of my ideologies as well.

So let’s get into it

1. Do not lend out money you cannot do without

I am honestly surprised that people don’t follow this ‘rule’ in the first place. If I have £1000 and someone asked me for £900. I cannot lend you that money because if you can’t pay it back, I will be stranded. So it really surprised me that Perlina was willing to lend Simon 30,000 dollars that she was supposed to use to buy an apartment. Even though she could afford to give him the money at the time, clearly she couldn’t do without it if she has a GoFundMe open with the other girls he scammed.

Bottom line: If you can’t do without it ,don’t do without it.

2. Research everyone to the best of your abilities.

I have had this done to me before but I just thought it was odd. After watching this documentary I realize how important this is. Before meeting someone you meet online, research them. This obviously didn’t work in this case because he had changed his name and edited pictures to back up his lies and fake Identity. But, I still think this is important because it might save you from your very own swindler and it’s just a great idea to me.

3. Never leave a conversation with the other person knowing more about you than you do them

This is something I am currently working on because I talk ALOT. Granted that most of the information I tell people about myself are general information. However, I realise how easy it is for someone to learn about me and possibly manipulate me along the line. Also, I think talking less in a conversation will improve my listening skills and make me ask more meaningful questions.

4. Always get your friends involved at some point in your romantic life

Obviously you do not need to take advise from anyone on what is best for your relationship but you should at least have someone to confide in , in situations like this. It could be your mum, pastor or even your therapist, if not your friends. My point here is , it is good to hear out opinions from people around you that genuinely want the best for you. Even hearing opinions from people that don’t like you can be helpful too. Just listen because everyone cannot be talking shit.

5. Do not take out a Loan for anyone

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Please do not take out a loan or in the case of Cecilie-9 different loans- for anyone. You know what? Love is blind so let’s say you take a loan out for someone. Make them pay it back before taking out another. Simon was able to forge documents making it seem like he had sent the money so this was part of the ‘scammery’ that Simon did. So I get it. Now here’s why I cannot imagine myself in this situation. The first point I mentioned, I cannot give you what I do not have. Second point, if I don’t have it someone else will and that’s not me.

Okay that’s it for today.

Rating: 4/5

if you haven’t watched The Tinder Swindler, I highly recommend it. If you have, feel free to share your thoughts!

Bye Creatures!

Temporary Suspension of this Category| Special Saturday

I’m temporarily suspending posting in this section. Goodbye.

Okay, I have the urge to leave the post as it is with that statement but I can’t help my self! I have to write just a little bit more. As you already know I am a student, if you didn’t , then you must be new here. Welcome!, I’m trying to break up with my blog…temporarily. If you’re not new here, Welcome back!

Anyways, with the workload I have right now, I’ve decided to not post on Thinkers Thoughts for a while. I have my three other sections and they don’t take up as much of my time as this section so it’s best to put this on pause for a while.

I don’t know when this would be back but you’ll know when you see another post from here after this. As much as I am trying to remain consistent this year, I can’t kill my self on top one section of my whole blog.

So yeah, you can look at other great posts I have and If you care, you can subscribe to see the next post that I’ll post after this.

Good Bye this time…temporarily.

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XOXO- Gossip Girl Review

For many weeks, I watched gossip girl , I found the drama and constant chaos to be very relaxing and entertaining, is that just me? Anyways, I finally finished it yesterday and the ending was soo unsatisfying and very unexpected . I have some things I want to get off my mind so here’s my mini review of the ending.

Let’s start with Dan

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The series ends with everyone finding out that Dan is gossip girl.

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Side Bar

I know this doesn’t relate but I can’t help but state that history has shown how men are the cause of most problems but find ways to blame women and make us at fault. Dan is a prime example. Gossip Girl , really?

Anyways, Dan being gossip girl was not a surprise to me because I already read the spoiler. The issue I had with the ending was everyone’s reaction to the news especially with everything Dan did leading to this revelation. I would describe the feeling as anticipating the taste of a food. You save up for it, you’ve talked about it to everyone and you finally buy it. Although , the food tastes amazing there’s just something missing. So you keep taking bites hoping something will kick in. You hope till the very end and then…your allergies kick in. Even I, cannot explain what I just typed.

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Also, these people did my girl , Vanessa, dirty especially Dan. Don’t get me wrong Vanessa riled me up so bad. She was nosy and always telling everybody ,everybody elses business . But what Dan did to her, how he treated her all through this series was absolutely distasteful. They should have treated Dan the same way they treated Vanessa. Dan , my guy, was the ultimate pick me. We stan…NOT. The plot was about Dan being an outsider trying to belong. Dan IS an outsider and he became rich by stepping on them, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Although, Blair , Chuck , Serena and Nate were evil towards each other , it was for momentarily gains. Whereas , Dan literally became rich off of these people. In my opinion, Dan and Ivy deserve each other.

Serena

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Serena was the most consistent character in this Series. She became so predictable that her scenes became boring to me. I think it was because when she would stir drama, people will repeatedly insult her with her behavioral pattern. After a while , I began to see it too and I just couldn’t deal. Also she fell in love soo many times, that when you think she’s better, she will pick the broken pieces of her heart off the floor and fall in love all over again. Like Damn! I commend her vulnerability though. Serena was loyal to a fault and was too a good of a friend to blair ,for the most part.

Blair

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Blair was a bad bitch till the very end. An insecure and childish one. WE STAN. They say love is blind but Blair will see your bullshit and love you the way you are. Chuck a prime example. They had the most stable relationship and I think it’s 80% because of Blair. Although , Blair’s flair for drama was very entertaining , it was also over played as well. Overtime, Blair became a better friend to everyone and I commend her for that. I don’t have a lot of bad things to say about Blair. This is because Blair was portrayed and acted exactly how she said she was. She didn’t pretend to be nice , in fact she was soo mean. I guess I had low expectations of her and she rose above. One thing that irritated me, was her having minions till the very end. CHALDISH

Chuck

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Chuck and Blair’s Relationship? Hot. Chuck alone, was a Billionaire loser. In fact Chuck/Charles had 3 major wins in the series. First was with Blair, Second was when his father fake died. Third was when his father actually died. Throughout this series, if chuck wasn’t trying to own a company, then he was trying to get his company back. If he wasn’t trying to get Blair back, he was pushing her away. One minute him and his dad are good, the next minute he’s seeking some form of revenge. He thought his uncle, Jack, was his dad. He thought Diana was his mother. He traded Blair for sex to get his company back from Jack , he said her never forced her but if we know anything about consent, manipulation is not it. Also, he looked and talked like he wanted to sneeze , which was somewhat funny.

I have more to say but I’m hungry for some bagels. Click here for my student approved, most filling Bagel meal.

Overall Rating: 3.5/5 -I would probably watch it again.

I would like to add that Nate is a snitch, can’t keep his mouth closed so makes sense he owns a newspaper. Rufus, was a- You know what? I’m done. I’m done for real this time.

See you in my next post! – XOXO, Ebitimi Creates

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Happy New Year!

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I can and can’t believe it at the same time. We are in 2022!. That’s crazyy. Happy new year everyone, wishing you love , life and light in everything you do.

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Speaking of New, I’m debuting a new category!

Say hello to Thinkers thoughts.

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To start of the year , it’s only right we do some thinking and reflection.

Last year -2021, was different for me. I cannot explain how I feel about it, it was just different. Obviously I learned that I am not a new year , new me person anymore. So I am not expecting to make huge changes to my overall being but I am really hoping this year brings new opportunities, blessings , graces and many more to be that’ll make me a better me. I honestly want to be a baby girl this year, I want to relax and be taken care of.

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My thoughts on new years are cliche. I know people say you can start your change anytime of the year but there’s something unique about starting from day 01 and I think it’s way organized than starting from day 27 or 191.

One of the things I want to take more serious is my journaling, I’m getting one today. I tried journaling last year but I couldn’t keep up with it daily. I want to journal daily in short sentences expressing my gratitude and my intentions. easy right? lets’s check back in march.

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So I made a survey to get your feedback on last year

https://forms.gle/da1soB9UDMe5H3Wz9

See you on my next post!