Uni De-stress|Solo Trip to Sheffield

I almost did not post this week and I’m shocked at my level of procrastination(not really). BUT I am currently typing and will be posting this in real-time, so little disclaimer-It will have little to no edits so readers discretion is advised.

Anyways welcome back to my YouTube channel, I’m back with another video(I can’t help myself). In today’s post, as the title reads I will be telling you how my Uni de-stress went. (Question for you: How do you de-stress?)

Every day, I learn new things about myself and one of the things I found out years ago is that I do not like stress, at all. It overwhelms me. So with the peak of the academic season coming to an end , I thought it was only right for me to de-stress.

Something I have always wanted to do is travel across borders internationally for purely relaxation and enjoyment purposes , I am thankful for my life and privileges so although I do not have the resources for that now, I will have it soon and will let you-my co-creatures- know about it. Instead for now, I decided to travel across borders domestically by going to *drumroll* Sheffield!(act surprised!)

My trip to Sheffield was quite nice, the journey was smooth and I had nothing to complain about. When I got there, I walked about for a bit before visiting the winter garden. To be fair, it wasn’t hard to find, it was literally just across the station. Although the garden was beautiful, I was quite underwhelmed. For some reason I thought it’d be quiet and peaceful but there was a cafe inside so quite a few people were talking. There were also children running around. So I ended up staying there for less than 5 minutes. Bear in mind this was about 9:30am in the morning.

Moving on from here, I saw really great architectural designs which I was very impressed by and even better, I saw the Japanese buffet restaurant that I was excited to eat from. Unfortunately, from their opening times displayed I realized they only opened in the evening and I had booked my return ticket 30 minutes after they open. So I made the choice to eat somewhere else.

After walking about for a bit, I purchased a Day bus ticket so that I could go round the city. For the bulk of my trip, I was on the bus and if I saw anything interesting , I would come down explore the area and the view and then get back on a bus and keep moving. Through this strategy, I coincidentally found myself at the Botanical garden. I was excited and shocked that I found it so I immediately got down from the bus.

I stayed there for a while, took some pictures and videos of the scenery and myself (#selfies). Then I sat on one of the chairs and reflected on how I felt at the moment. It was honestly so peaceful and therapeutic. Afterwards, I was really hungry so I went to a Chinese buffet restaurant but since I was solo they said I couldn’t get the buffet. So I had a three course meal instead which I would rate a strong 6/10. It was okay , just not okay enough.

Overall I had a swell time, I am happy I went alone and spent some quality time with myself in a new city, I am also happy I got to do something non-academic related. So Cheers to that!

In the future, I think I might make plans for activity in the place I’m going to. Mailny because I feel because I was going to the city to explore, I ended up walking around most of the time, but I think learning about the city and doing something fun as well will help my trip organisation and make it better. So I would rate this trip a strong 6/10. I’m manifesting more trips and better experiences for the future, by God’s grace.

That’s it for this post, see you in my next one!

The Free Deadline Planner that you need

Hey creatures,

I have officially become the person for the people…on the internet. Okay dramatic much. I just mean I am going to be sharing my deadline planner to people on the internet. I am a huge procrastinator so I designed this template because it allows me to do the bare minimum and still get work done without rushing or feeling guilty of not doing it on time.

So if you’re interested in using it, you can just click the link below to download it.

Deadline Planner Template One

Deadline Planner Template Two

Solving student Problems on Reddit

Hey Creatures!

Today’s post is all about student problems. I thought it would be a great Idea to source out student problems on Reddit and solve them on my blog. I’ll be giving advice based on personal experience , as always. So let’s get into it.

How do I catch up at Uni?

I think a great way to deal with this is by creating a to-do list for the week. Pick two days in week and a non-negotiable time period to focus on school work. Try to get through two topics per week so you can catch up on past work. You will have to do this while staying up to date with your current school work so you don’t fall behind.

Look for summaries on all the topics/work online from your subject. On YouTube there are a lot of educational videos on there that summarize or give detailed lectures on topics , so start there. It’ll give you a quicker understanding of what you missed and some topics on your syllabus. To increase your engagement just ask questions. If you’re as behind as you say you are, then you probably have a lot of questions.

‘I have no motivation to do anything’

I was literally here a couple weeks ago. I even posted about it (Dealing with lack of Motivation| Short rant…). Feeling this way every now and again is normal. I would advice you to talk to your personal tutor(if you have one at your college or university) and see if there are any student resources in your University that may help. Such as Counselling, Mental health support, academic writing e.t.c. Also, to avoid missing classes, I suggest you go to school or Library in the morning and don’t return home until your classes are finished for the day or till you’ve done something academically productive. I struggle with this as well, but I find that going to the campus helps me to be more productive and not miss classes. Also, If you have any friends on your course, maybe studying and doing your assignment at the same time will help you remain accountable. Demotivation, I believe is a more mental than physical. So I feel you need to inform you university advice team to get help. Good luck!

‘Take rough notes or thorough notes?’

As someone that prefers paper , I always do rough notes because all the lecture resources are available online to look at after the class. I know Lecturers recommend you look through your notes after the class. I think it has to do with prolonging your memory on the topic or something like that… but this is completely up to you.

Side Bar: Is it just me but I can’t take detailed notes and pay full attention in class? I feel I will miss out on too much because the Lecturer would have rambled on while I’ll be stuck on one sentence he said 10 mins ago.

‘Someone help me with my Housemates’

My advice to approaching them is to write out everything you want to say to them and how you feel about the whole situation or you could make a voice recording of what you want to say-just like this post you have made but just write it ,directing it to them. Then send it to them. I highly recommend taking pictures of the mess and messaging them individually or on a group chat/ Just to make sure you have proof that you have talked to them about this.

Wait it out for about two weeks to see the outcome. If nothing happens then inform your accommodation provider and send your evidence to them so they can sort it out. You can also see other accommodation advice here (My practical advice for foreign students living in a shared accommodation)

‘How do I start my university assignment that I’ve been putting off for three years?’

If you’re struggling to write, Don’t. There are other alternatives. You can record yourself talking about it and transcribe it . Make a video recording and type it out. Finish the essay in whatever format is easier for you and type it out or dictate it to get written down on Microsoft Doc.

You can finish a 4000 word essay in 2 weeks, if you keep calm and get about 400 words down a day. If you can, find a study buddy, someone with a deadline they’re working towards. They’re a lot of people with deadlines and Uni. Set up a Study Date, hopefully this will motivate you.

Side Bar: I remember writing in one of my posts about how, some universities don’t take into account many different assessment styles that suits students and I hope to see a change soon(University Deadlines are approaching).

Okay that’s it for today.

If you are a student of any capacity, this is your time to shine and share your most problematic student experience.

Things in Europe I did not expect as an International student.

Before coming to Europe, I had visited a couple times when I was younger and I presumed I knew what to expect. However, here are some things I did not expect as an international student studying in Europe.

The very confusing-mostly cold-weather

Prior to me coming here , I had never used or found weather forecast useful. Back home, I believe we have raining season, dry season and Harmattan. Now here I am checking the weather prediction before leaving my room. The thing here is, just when you think it’s really cold, It gets colder. I was really surprised the day it was really cold outside, yet I could feel the heat of the sun. It is really odd.

It gets really dark fast in the winter

This was something that took me a while to get used to and I’m still not used to it. During the winter period , it gets dark very early. I’m talking by around 4pm the sun is no were to be found. This actually messed up by sleeping pattern because I started sleeping by like 6pm.

People smoke a lot

I think this one shocked me the most. Partly because there is a lot of stigma around smoking in the area I grew up in. So It took me aback because my teachers were smoking, my classmates were smoking, there are cigarette bins almost everywhere, there are smoking areas in a lot of institutions AND behind the smoking packet it says SMOKING KILLS.

A lot of homeless people

This is based on my stereotype of Europe though, I guess that is why I did not expect it. There is a certain way a lot of people from western countries talk about most African countries in regards to poverty and homelessness. So I had assumed these countries had no such thing. So I was pretty shocked when I saw a lot of homeless people here. I also think this might be due to the area I live in Europe, but the amount of homeless people I see on a daily basis is shocking.

People refer to Africa as a country

Throughout this post, I have intentionally referred to one country in Europe as Europe when I can. This was inspired by a lot of Europeans(I mean across the the continent not one country), that I have talked to, that refer to one country in Africa as Africa. I find it odd and in certain instances disrespectful. In many of the conversations I have had with Europeans , I have asked them questions about their country but they would somehow reply with a question asking me about Africa. Even though I have clearly stated I am Nigerian. Odd isn’t it?

Anyways that’s it for this post! See you next week!

My practical advice for foreign students living in a shared accommodation.

Following my previous post where I gave advice on things to consider when searching for an accommodation as a student. Today , I am going to narrow it down to my practical advice for foreign students living in shared accommodation . Although, this post is directed to foreign students, it is still applicable to all students.

Shared accommodations are properties where renters share specific spaces in the property. Typically these spaces include the living area(sitting room), the kitchen and/or the bathroom.

Living in a shared accommodation is a unique experience. It can be either be good , bad or just in the middle. This living experience is much more different from others because someone’s actions can impose greatly on your comfort, privacy and saftey at home. So here are some tips.

Clean after yourself

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It is important that the shared spaces you use-toilet or kitchen, is left as clean as possible or at least, as clean as you found it. Some common advice people give is to leave the space as clean as you want to meet it next time. Although I agree , I don’t necessary encourage others to depend on that. People are different , some people are comfortable with a certain level of messy and dirt that you may not be accustomed to.

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If you clean the toilet really well on a weekly basis, not everyone will consider your effort and maintain the space like you. That means it is really unlikely for you to meet these spaces in the quality that you have left it in, whether good or bad. So I suggest you leave spaces as clean as possible or at least, as clean as you found it. My rule is you do just enough but not too much. Do not break your back .

Speak up

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In a shared accommodation, some people might leave their unwashed dishes in the sink , or not flush the toilet after they’re done using it. Some people might leave tooth paste stains on the sink , you might even find pee stains on the toilet seat and some on the floor.There is an endless list of things that other people will do that can make you uncomfortable. It is important that if other students actions in the accommodation is breaking the rule or encroaching on your comfort you should speak up about it. You can do this by approaching them when you see them and addressing them in a calm and respectable manner. You can post this on the group chat for everyone to be aware of it and you can also talk to the your accommodation provider as well.

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When I shared a flat with six people, we were called for a meeting because someone complained of the smell of weed in the flat. The accommodation provider addressed us about it and followed up on it. The smell gave him headaches which was why he had to report. Since then, there was no smell of weed in the flat . Bottom line , speak up.

Be Cordial

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Whether you like your co-sharers or not, I encourage you to have a cordial relationship with them. This is nothing major. For me, anytime I see any of my flatmates we always exchange greetings. These greetings of ‘Hello’s and ‘Hi’s are the only conversations we have. I also know people that share kitchen and their relationship with their flatmates include borrowing food stuffs and tasting each others food e.t.c.

It really depends on you as a person and the level of relationship you’re willing to build with you co-sharer. I think what is important is that you are living in a space where you have peace and you’re comfortable.

Ultimately, your experience sharing public spaces with people is up to you. You will not be able to control people and certain behaviors they have, but you will be able to control how you react . You will also have to decide on the best solution possible to make sure you are comfortable. So please keep this in mind.

Did I miss anything? drop your thoughts and advice in the comment below!

Hi

Hi

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(shy wave)

Yes it’s me ,Ebitimi, back here after a couple of months.

To be honest, I have some excuses I can use so I don’t look that bad but I choose to not use them. So we’re just going to act like I never left, Okay? Okay. Thanks for understanding .

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Since we’ve sorted that out, let’s move on to more important things like How has everyone been?!

I’ve been mostly great. I’m currently ill so I’m not feeling too great right now but generally I’m fine.

You know living the flashy Uni life, being a city girl , doing hot girl shit , crossing boundaries and breaking generational curses-not like I have any but yeah- and just living life to the fullest!

LIESS

Truthfully, I am alive.

And I think that’s enough of an achievement especially because this year has been ‘year-ing’ like never before and Time is ‘flying so fast, it’s almost suspicious.

SIDE BAR

Do you think the government and scientists are in cahoots to make sure time moves by faster ,so that this whole Corona year can be over and done with? I don’t think that makes sense but it could be a possibility.

Basically, it’s been a ride. A crying-laughing-dirty-clean-hate-love- overwhelming-underwhelming-peaceful-war filled year, but a ride nonetheless. I hope to ride it better than I have been so far. This brings me to another impotortant topic I wanted to talk on.

My accountability.

Honestly, I am disappointed that I was unable to remain consistent in blogging through the summer , although I expected it because there was actually so many things going on. The dissapointment I feel comes fromnot posting or interacring for this long. So my goal is that I don’t stay away for more than 4 weeks , If I have to take a step back for any reason at all.

Okay that’s it from me today. Till Next Post!!

Wednesday Wins: Manifesting a Job Interview

Today’s post will be an update from my previous post. The Student in me is Tired. So it’ll be pretty short.

In the previous post, I expressed my concerns of having sent out over 60 applications but was rejected at the application stage…in all of them. So I rounded up the post by manifesting an interview invite by the end of the week , which I didn’t get . So I hoped for the next week. Well Guess what?

I GOT AN INTERVIEW INVITE.

When I saw it , I think I was preparing for an exam so I was revising. I feel really happy about it. That’s it. I don’t have much to say about it since nothing is for certain . If/when I get it , I will have a lot more to say but for now I’m grateful to God for giving me the the opportunity and guiding me to apply for this company. I hope I get it and/or a better opportunity at a better location.

To round up , I am manifesting.

I am manifesting a message informing me of a successful interview and moving to the next stage of the process by the end of this week. AMEN

I also have to thank everyone for reading and engaging me with my post. I really appreciate it with all my heart.

Thank you!

Wish me luck y’all!

THE STUDENT IN ME IS TIRED

I’ll be honest, first year of University was a breeze for me.

Don’t get me wrong ,It was hard…when I was in first year. People would always talk about how hard University was, so I felt I could get used to the level of hardness that first year was handing to me. Now I realize first year wasn’t hard at all , so me thinking it was hard actually meant that I was a struggling student.

Therefore , we can conclude that I have single-handedly deceived myself. A fool,I was.

I am in my second year now…actually about to finish it and the student in me is tired. I don’t want to leave University but it seems University wants to leave me. Of course, I can not tell this to my Nigerian parents or this would be the last you hear from me…in life. So hear I am telling the internet…love that for me.

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To add to this , the Job market is a Jungle. Survival of the fittest indeed. When I mean fittest , I really don’t know if i’m fit for the amount of rejection I’ve been getting. I am interested in doing a placement to gain experience in the Job market before I graduate. Thankfully , I have gained some prior experience but it seems there’s soo much more than experience needed. I will make a separate post about this, because we need to actually talk about how your degree might not be enough and your experiences might not be relevant.

Bottom line, I have not been invited for an interview after over 60 applications. Although demotivating , I don’t doubt my skills or my qualifications because I am confident in my self and the amazing qualities I can add to my working environment(I don’t mean to be full of myself or anything but I really am). However, I am becoming more aware of factors that may be contributing to my lack of success. For example my name. I have seen some articulates and leaked emails that reveal recruiters refusing to consider applications from people because of the complexity or unfamiliarity of their name. Hence they might pick names like Laura , Alex , Liam over Ebitimi. This makes me extremely anxious. I really hope this is not happening to me.

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So look at my situation. While someone out there is worried about having no experience , here I am worried about my name being an issue in spite of my experience. Anyways wish me luck!

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That’s really all for me today. I came to complain about University and employment because the school is not schooling and the job market is not buying the skills and experiences I have to sell.

Wish me luck y’all and if you have any tips you think might be helpful to me, don’t hesitate to message me .

I am manifesting a placement interview invite before the end of the week!

Update(end of the week): No placement interview. Maybe next week?

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The Most filling Bagel Breakfast: Student Approved.

Growing up ,foods such as bagels and other bread varieties were never a vital part of my diet. When I came to UK , I would always purchase food that I ate back home or were at least similar to them. None of them were bagels, ofcourse.

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When I saw a video of someone eating Bagels (and having a good time), as a self-proclaimed enjoyment minister , it was only right to try it. So I went to the the store and got sausages , Bagels and eggs because I had something in my head that I wanted to attempt.

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I added a picture gallery of the step by step process of making it. I don’t think you’re here for the recipe so let’s keep it pushing.

My thoughts on bagels

I like them. I think they are almost chewy in a way,if that makes sense. Unlike sliced bread which is softer and lighter, Bagels are more dense and I like that which is why I tend to use it as I would, a burger bun.

My Thoughts On This Bagel Breakfast

This meal took around thirty minutes to make. This may vary depending on people’s speed in the kitchen. Personally, I enjoy eating fried eggs. It just has this unique taste and texture to it . The diversity of eggs and what can be done with it. AMAZING. Also,I’ve found it goes really well with bagel.

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I think this can be an everyday breakfast or mid-day snack. If you take out the sausages and stick with just eggs,it cuts down a lot of the time and calories in this meal. Overall I’m happy with it and It is definitely a budget meal for Me!

Question

Have you tried bagels before? What was your first impression?

University Deadlines are approaching:So help me God|Studenting

When I first entered University, I was a bit disappointed in myself when a deadline was approaching and I was not even halfway done with the work. After speaking to many other students about my struggles, I felt a strange sense of peace knowing I wasn’t the only one is this predicament. I was really really ecstatic about it.

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Coming from a country with a unique and ‘difficult’ educational system,I would study to pass not to understand. So It was strange for me to adjust to a system where my success in the assessments was based on my level of understanding.

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This was me at some point.

This brings me to today’s topic. My deadlines are approaching and I feel anxious about it. One thing I have come to realize being in university is that I actually dislike the uncertainty that comes with writing essays.

Imagine writing a 2000 word essay only to find out that your understanding of the question and the answer the teacher was expecting were totally different…so you end up failing.

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it’s funny but it’s not.

So I have an idea .

I want to carry out a research, asking students if they prefer essays or exams or course work and why. I think this would be a great idea because *cue flashback*

I felt a strange sense of peace knowing I wasn’t the only one is this predicament. – Ebitimi Creates

Also , it would give better insights to the assessment style students prefer. Personally, I am leaning towards exam but at the same time the procrastinator in me thrives off essays.

Overall I do think, Universities should consider students who fall under these different categories because students that struggle with a particular assessment style may never get to see their true learning potential.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Do you prefer essays ,course work or exams and why? Also, vote if you would be willing to partake in the research!